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“10 Lessons about the Female Orgasm”

A friend of mine uploaded a very interesting article on facebok and i would be doing a disservice to each and everyone who follows my blog and vlogs if I did not share this brilliant information with each and every one of you. So please take a look at this information and put ti to good use people. Below is the information taken from Men’s Health magazine written by Debby Herbenick Ph D,  so read and enjoy.

1. Take Her Off the Clock

Just as you’re concerned about la:sting longer, many women are so self-conscious about taking too long that they end up faking orgasm or deciding to go without. The solution? Stop obsessing over orgasms—yours and hers. A recent brain-imaging study by Swedish researchers shows that relaxation is the single most important factor in bringing a woman to orgasm.

So tell her she has all night. The better you convey not just tolerance for a lengthy buildup, but also appreciation of her sexual pleasure—orgasm or not—the easier it will be for her to unwind and explode. Oh, and studies show that it takes 15 to 40 minutes for the average woman to reach orgasm. Going somewhere?

2. Turn Her On with Your Talent:

The best sex starts long before the clothes come off. Talent—more than rugged good looks or a chiseled midsection—is a powerful aphrodisiac, according to research by my colleagues at The Kinsey Institute. (Less surprisingly, poor hygiene and a messy home are among women’s biggest turnoffs.)

So nail “Paradise City” during karaoke. Or make her die laughing at your self-deprecating display of atrocious dartsmanship. Yes, humor is a talent, too.

3. When She’s Naked, Speak Up:

:Women who worry about the way they look down there are less likely to orgasm easily during oral sex, according to my research. And a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research suggests that women who feel embarrassed or ashamed about their bodies have less sexual experience and are less sexually assertive.

Clearly, you have everything to gain with flattery. If you love the way she looks naked—and you do, right?—share the news.

4. Always Be Tender Up Top:

During foreplay, gently brush the tops, bottoms, and sides of her breasts; these areas are actually more sensitive than an unaroused areola and nipple. Gradually move in toward her nipples, paying attention to how she responds. As things heat up, the nipples will become flushed with blood, and the sensory receptors will become primed for direct stimulation. You’ll kickstart the bloodflow and lubrication down below, starting her slow buildup.

5.  Learn Her Key Strokes:

One thing many women love during manual stimulation: a slow buildup. Here’s how to do it: Lie next to her, lightly bracing the heel of one hand just above her clitoris. Now run your ring and middle fingers along the length of her outer lips. Graze the skin at first, adding pressure as the tension builds. Cup the area around her clitoris with your palm to add indirect stimulation—most women are too sensitive to receive direct contact early on. As she becomes aroused, brace your hand on her mons—her pubic mound, the fleshy area that covers her pubic bone—and tease the clitoris with the middles and tips of your fingers as you move your entire hand.

6. Change Your Angle:

Play Ponce de León and explore various types of penetration to figure out what turns her on most. Your first stop: her G-spot, located about 1 to 2 inches up the front wall of her vagina. This spongy region swells during arousal. Try massaging the area slowly with your fingers. A lot of women find it mind blowing. Not her thing? Just move on.

7. Use Moves that Multitask:

To maximize her pleasure, increase the amount of contact you’ll have with her most sensitive parts. Here’s one move that will drive her wild: Ask her to lie on her back, with her legs stretched out. Now climb on top. Curl your arms around her shoulders, supporting yourself with your elbows and moving your chest up by her chin. The goal is to bring the base of your penis in contact with her clitoris. Thrust slowly, focusing on up-and-down movement instead of in-and-out penetration.

Another great trick: Move your pubic mound in a circle or up and down against her clitoris. You’ll get a break from high-intensity stimulation, and she’ll receive focused attention where it often matters most.

8. Learn to Sense Her Orgasm:

Ease into oral sex—don’t just attack. First kiss her inner thighs and her inner and outer lips, then work your way inside using firm, broad strokes with your tongue. Watch her hips for a clue to the rhythm she likes. Listen to her gasps and moans as you experiment with different techniques.

And watch for signs she’s close to climaxing, such as a subtle deepening in the color of her labia caused by increased bloodflow. Or rest a hand on her stomach and feel for the muscular contractions that immediately precede her orgasm.

9. Follow Her Lead:

Once you reach your point of no return, you’ll climax even if you’re interrupted by a tuba-playing, thong-clad Bea Arthur. But your lady could hit the “off” switch if you stop or change moves midway to orgasm. We love it when you try new things, and it’s important to vary your technique, but once you’ve found a winner, stick with it until she crosses the finish line.

10. Let Her Finish First:

Stalking the elusive tandem orgasm is an admirable goal, but many women—especially those with sensitive clitorises—respond better to a “ladies-first” strategy. If you rub the clitoris for a long time—during thrusting, for example—it can become too sore or desensitized to respond to manual or oral stimulation later. So satisfy her before intercourse.

Bonus: A woman’s orgasm threshold drops after her first one, so it’s often easier to bring her to climax through penetration after she’s already had one. How does that sound for an encore?

So there you have it people, 10 wonderful ways in which you can improve on your sex life and make women around the world VERY HAPPY. below is the link to the online article so you can check out the article in full detail.

http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/understand_the_female_orgasm/

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“A loss for words…GAME OVER MAN…GAME OVER”

Ok….now I have SEVERAL issues with not only this flyer, but this concept the idea, the name, and hell even the fact that the party is taking place on Martin Lutheran King Dr. I mean come on people you have got to be kidding me…The battle of the complexions. Reasons like this is why there is so much dis-unity in the black community. I mean we cannot even move past the slave mentality that is air-apparent and still very prevalent where we are divided on the basis of skin tone, and we even go as far to say the tone of our skin still equates to a hierarchy in terms in terms of beauty and self worth among African Americans. To be honest images and concepts such as this just simply disgust me and I am embarrassed by this to say the least. It’s 2012 and we in the black community still have a complex about our complexion and we are still slaves on the plantation of the mind. It’s sad to be honest and we really need to let go of this light skin vs. dark skin state of mind and way of thinking. We have got to do better people.

And this is just like WOOOOOOOW, REALLY DUDE…..”GAME  OVER MAN…GAME OVER”  lol It’s offensive it’s funny.