I had the Big Homie from Bonito En Rosado at the sinlge trio http://thesingletrio.wordpress.com/ He heard I was doing a Relationship Series and decided to bless with an account of some of the 5 most powerful types of relationship that we all go through that influence us on our way to find that perfect someone. PLEASE READ AND SUPPORT GOOD IDEAS.
By Bonito En Rosado
Behind me is a long tale of relationships I had that probably helped shape some of my views, at some point, thought they might have been the one but were lost along the way. I rarely talk about these relationships, which were stepping stones (I hope) to the altar because overall, marriage is the holy grail of relationships right!? once one hits that wall everything or every woman that came before my wife (If I have one) seems to dull in comparison. Those relationships deserve better because without them there was a good chance I’d never have been able to recognize the real McCoy when we found it.
Over the years, I’ve noticed that of all the different romantic relationships. Five stand out as the ones I have or had before I decide settle down. In today’s post I want to Share these 5 with you, and discuss why they’re important in my travel to hopefully being married. Hopefully you all can relate an/or Agree with me…
5. The “I Know… I’m addicted” Relationship…
Have you ever been addicted to someone of the opposite sex? Of course you have. Ever had someone who you couldn’t fathom not being around regardless of how healthy or unhealthy being around this person could be. Sometimes, the chemistry between you and this person mixes in a way that it just seems impossible to remove yourself from this person. The fun part is that you might not even be attracted to them in the least, hell you might not be fond of the personality and they might not even be that great in bed… still though.. you can’t seem to get away. I’ve been in a addictive relationship, Just like a addictive friendship before. The type where you just keep going back to each other despite each other’s relationship status.
I’m kind of glad I experienced it before .
The “addictive relationship/Friendship” is important (To me atleast again) because it’s a reminder that we are all human. It’s a big reminder that you’re very capable of what I call the ” inexplicable attraction” and that high of being intimate, physically and mentally… and the only way to break it is to avoid it AT ALL COST.
4.The “I Can say I Do Not Regret” Relationship…
We all like to say that we have no regrets in life. We act as if we wouldn’t change a thing that has happened to us because doing such would prevent us from becoming that person we are at this moment. I really heard all that and it sounds dead nice, but I know I am pretty sure I would’ve turned out ok even if I took back one or two previous relationships(Even a few flings too..). If there is not one person in your life that you really wish you never fell
Or had sex with for there is a good chance that you’re that person is someone wishes they never fell for(Trust me I been on both sides of that, currently going through it now). I know I’m that one person in this galaxy she wishes she never fell for( Do I care? No, Should’ve asked me a while ago. Though it is a post for another day.).
I’ve told myself I’ll never write another post about “her”, though what I will say is that from that relationship I honestly learned that it’s completely possible to love someone who doesn’t love you in the least bit and will never love you, Just pretend to.
Loving someone that doesn’t love you is the most impossibly pointless venture one can ever find their self dooped into and usually, when you finally break away you realize that you have learned nothing, gained nothing, and a big loss for a time.. Pretty much everything. When the scars of love remind you of the fact that you could have had it all, and didn’t, you probably wish you never had met that person. Dig me?
3. The”She/He Is Sexing Me To New Heights” Relationship…
Honestly…it’s legitimately possible to marry “the best sex You’ve ever had” though most likely you won’t (To be frank about it). This is something that a lot of us average folk will never admit to, though for most of us there is that one person who will always have the only key to unlocking certain lustful sides of our nature. Thee traits are those parts of our bedroom personalities that we (Not all of us, I know as well as you should depending on the reader here.) never knew existed til we found ourselves letting them out of our sexual fantasy with that one person.
It could be a number of things, I’m not going to get to listing them here at my dude’s site (Unless he clears me to or asks me to Guest post again in the future. Maybe a “Sexual Friday Post” lol.), but let your imagination run for a completely free for a little bit. Think about that thing you did that one time that you never thought you’d do with her or him, but yet know you’ll never do with the person you marry(its highly possible, Check the stat books). Some things are just in the making of some relationships and other things are not. When the makings of a particular physical relationship includes the best sex you’ve ever had and ever will have (Or more.), it’s pretty hard for you two to actually deny each other when the chance presents itself (Or he’s hard enough, or your wet enough…) but you have to… I mean..when your BF or GF calls, are you really gonna play it off like she’s your best friend? Which in itself is another post I’ll be debuting here
2. He/She is my “Bestfriend”.
I mean c’mon…Really!? Yes! Really…Being from Detroit and watching while enduring this scene it’s really common for a man and woman to develop a friendship and then have that friendship develop in to a physical relationship, Sometimes romantic depending on the basis of how this relationship came about. In my mind, this is actually the ideal way for a relationship (Friends turned bestfriends, for those who may have lost me.) to be born.
Though every so often, the exact opposite happens. You meet someone, begin dating them with the strict understanding off rip (See my Detroit lingo?), that the relationship could be romantic in nature..but somewhere you realize you both make a terrible couple but great friends (No benefits, Yet.).
If 90% of the time, you argue & fight, learn to make her/him your best friend 1st. The thing that is completely great about this relationship is you can use that person as the prototype for your future. You may want someone who has all of the traits that make them your best friend, but none of which that makes the two of you compatible as and item. Plus, they know you better than your friends know you. Attempting to date them they saw a side of you your everyday friends never see, you two can share that with their peers who might be actually be perfect for you. They’ll be your biggest spokesperson consistently ranting your awesomesauce
1. The Good Ol’ “I Guess I’ll See You Next Lifetime …” No Baduizm.
There’s something utterly wonderfully heartbreaking about meeting someone who you find perfect for you at a time in your world when that perfection can not even thought of being explored.
In the movies, love is worth moving mountains, picking up and starting new lives, breaking people’s hearts and whatever else needs to be made for the right people to end up together. In real life, Its not that type of party(No Waka). Reality is real… sometimes fate/Destin just isn’t on our side. You can’t always give up everything for love. The thing is, these kinds of relationships can end up being beautiful.. when you end up finding that person who makes you just as equally happy. When you do, you are left with no regrets at all.
Where do you all stand? Tell me in the comments, Fb me here Or Tweet me @RosadoPopulair Have you had any of the above relationships? If so how have they helped you? settling down? Are you in one of these relationships right now? If so, please over share, we’d love to hear what you’re experiencing.
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